In recent times, a lot of youngsters r opting for an inter-caste or inter-religion marriage. Thats bcos they fall in love with a guy/girl out of their caste or religion. Its each one's personal choice. They r ready to make compromises and they r so much in love with the person tat caste or religion doesnt matter. Each individual has his/her own opinion abt tis. V cant generalise saying its wrong or its right. It may be wrong for me but right for someone else. All tis is fine. I have come across a few ppl who quote other reasons for marrying a person out of their caste/religion. Below is an excerpt from a known person's blog. I dont want to mention her name.
''I might have found a Brahmin boy but he will NEVER find me :P. Seeing the way the men in my "brahmin" family treat the women, no thanks. Really. I can't wait for my husband to come home from work while I either don't go to work or come home early and cook. Just when I start to think "AAAh, I can eat the food I made", PSYCHE! I can't. I have to wait for him to come home and I have to wait for him to finish his dinner while I serve him. And if he is especially very hungry that day, I might just have no food left to feed my poor tummy."
Why does she have to talk rubbish abt her own "brahmin" community guys ? How many "Brahmin" guys treat their wives like tis ? She fell in love with a christian guy and decided to marry him. Fine, good for her. She married her love. Isnt it really stupid to put the blame on the "brahmin" guys and their attitude towards their wives for her to opt for a christian guy ? Its absurd. For tat matter, a lot of men (irrespective of the religion or caste they belong to) still treat their wives badly. She found a guy out of her religion. Y cant she boldly say i fell in love with him and am gonna marry him and his religion doesnt matter ? Y shd there be unnecessary things being spoken abt "brahmin" boys ? A lot of women/men who opt for inter caste/inter-religion marriage say unreal things abt their own community. They rnt brave enough to accept tat they fell in love with an inter-caste/inter-religion guy/girl and tats the reason for marrying out of caste/religion. Y tis unnecessary fallacy abt their own community guys/girls ?
A lot of "brahmin" guys also blame "brahmin" girls for opting to an inter-caste/inter-religion marriage. Am not a pro-brahmin and anti-non brahmin or something. I respect all religions and castes. According to me, all human beings r equal. Religion and caste r just 2 ways of differentiating ppl based on their religious beliefs, food habits, culture etc. Its not rite to blame guys/girls of a particular caste/religion for a person to opt for an inter-caste/inter-religion marriage.
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hey- i care a damn abt tat senseless woman who had such ridiculous explanations for not gettin married to a brahmin guy. i need not know who she is. but i know for sure tat she is STUPID n IMMATURE. cmon guys r gals don treat their spouses dependin on their caste. tat woman has got the whole idea of marriage totally WRONG. if u know her try to put some sense into her EMPTY head.
ReplyDeleten for u ms. mylapore- ur name does sound funny. anyways jokes apart. u have got the idea of a brahmin wrong. a person does not become a non-brahmin jus by eatin non-veg. jus like hinduism- bein a brahmin is a way of life. n it boils down to simplicity.
ReplyDeleten none of the brahmins i know- includin u n me r devoid of material wealth. brahmins r not supp to have wordly desires n r supp to be content with what they get. u n i r not.
so stop all this crappy discussion abt brahmin n non-brahmin.
practically speakin even u n i r not brahmins. what did u do to call urself a brahmin- jus eat veggie food [ but cakes, ice creams r included in ur list of veggie food] and go to the temple n follow some rituals. tat is not bein brahmin. bein brahmin is more to do with learning n building ur spiritual personality. so chuck the issue. get goin with life.
yeah u r rite..its not just following rituals,going to temple and eating vegetarian food..yess i know tis..The post was not abt who is brahmin and who is a non brahmin..it was abt how some ppl criticise "brahmin" guys and girls..For ur info, there is actually much more to being a brahmin than wat all u mentioned..my post was not intended to define a brahmin..watever i said was just a part and i dint mention anywhere tat wat i said was the correct definition of being a brahmin..
ReplyDeleteya i do accept i don know much. n may be even u dint mean to define a brahmin. but ur post seems so.
ReplyDelete@mylaporean : One of the most thought provoking blogs I've ever read !
ReplyDelete@prathiba : If this post was crappy , why did you even have to comment on a crappy post ?
Think again .
Thank u Abhi !
ReplyDelete@abhishek
ReplyDeletei commented bcoz i felt ms.mylapore had the whole idea of a brahmin n non-brahmin wrong. n she bein one of my closest frnds- i wanted to make her realise tat her idea is not correct wrt to differentiating between a brahmin n a non-brahmin. n i remember ter was a mention abt veg n non-veg food. tats wat i found most funny. guess she has edited her blog. not sure.
enna d. edit panniya. i remember readin somethin reg veg n non veg
ReplyDeleteYess, i did edit the post..Like i told you,i was not exactly defining who a brahmin is cos the post was not meant to define a brahmin..As a brahmin,i do know wat it is to be a brahmin..not trying to say am a true brahmin and stuff..just saying i know the meaning of being a brahmin..
ReplyDeletebut i made a blunder while mentioning about a brahmin and a non brahmin..A lot of people scoffed at me for the same so thought it would be better if i edited the post..I wanted to say something but couldnt express myself clearly..like i said,am not a great writer,just trying to improve myself.So best option was to edit..Am not sure if abhishek read the post after i edited the post or before i edited the post.
ReplyDeleteThis is a brillaint post...Whether you intended to define a Brahmin or not...what you have done is to tear apart some self proclaimed know-it-alls....
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ReplyDeleteHmmm. You seems to be hunting down vettiness with your posts. This was a heavy one though.
ReplyDeleteMsMylaporean,
ReplyDeleteAre you still married or unmarried?
Good post
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